By Shane Svorec
Ahhh, the holiday season—a beautiful time when the world becomes merry and bright. A palpable anticipation stirs within, and magic can be felt. Everyone is patient and kind; for a moment, all is right.
That’s the wish.
If you’re like many, the truth is that holidays can be a time when stress is amplified, and the things we are lacking become exaggerated. Not every holiday is Instagram-worthy. For some, the holidays illuminate family discord, financial burdens, or a shortage of time. Many experience stress and strain, such as the loss of a loved one, devastating news, food or home insecurities, or other hardships. If you’re fortunate, you only have to worry about planning, shopping, cooking, decorating, and crossing off the endless to-do list for the holidays – and don’t forget to check it twice. The reality is that even during joyous times, finding (and maintaining) peace during the holidays can be challenging for many.
When I think about past holidays and recount my most stressful vs. most enjoyable, there was a stark difference in how I approached them. One might think that the more pleasurable holidays would equate to more peace being felt, but peace is not about what happens outside us but within. Some of my most peaceful holidays were not void of pain, sadness, or loneliness but were full of gratitude, charity, and meaningful, quiet moments of reflection. These holidays even held tears and tributes to loved ones – bitter experiences that led to sweet moments that matter. Life presents many stressors and throws us unpredictable curve balls, but peace IS possible amidst the chaos. In times of turmoil, I like to implement P.E.A.C.E – an acronym I created to encourage mindfulness and remind me of what’s truly important.
P – (Be) Present
It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the season and lose sight of priorities, but busyness leads to meaninglessness. Being present allows us to enjoy those fleeting moments, acknowledge our emotions, honor our loved ones, and accept that holiday dynamics change for many reasons and circumstances. Being present is a gift not only to others but also to ourselves. Our presence is more valuable than presents and will be remembered longer.
E – Easy
There’s no need to complicate the holidays. The most precious things are not things. They’re the people in your life, the indescribable feelings you get, the kindness you give, the memories you hold onto, and the love you carry in your heart. Finding peace is so much easier when we keep things simple and easy.
A – Assess
If you’ve been doing the same thing year after year simply because that’s what you’ve always done, but it steals your joy and adds to your stress – let it go. It’s true; as Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.” Peace is a choice. If you find yourself trying to keep up, step up, or outdo yourself, you will struggle to find peace. If there was ever a time to nix those feelings or let go of self-imposed obligations, it’s the holidays. Assess any situation or tradition compromising your peace and reprioritize your “must-do” list.
C – Create
Create a list of things you want to do for and around the holidays. When we begin the holiday season with a wish list (think of it as your grown-up Christmas list), we are more inclined to stick to it and find ways to make it happen. This list can be as simple as driving around and looking at Christmas lights, carving out some time to call a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while, sending a handwritten note to someone who is struggling, watching your favorite Christmas movie, making something that reminds you of a lost loved one, or simply listening to holiday music. Whatever brings you happiness contributes to greater peace.
E – Expectations
It’s human nature to have expectations, but the holidays are one of the few times they should go out the window. The most peaceful holidays begin with humble hearts focused on finding gratitude. It’s not about what we have but making what we have enough. To experience true peace, we mustn’t be in a state of expectation but present and prepared for miracles, simple acts of kindness, and moments that remind us of the magic and spirit of the holidays.
Peace is found when we slow down, count our blessings, and focus on the reason for the season. The house doesn’t need to be perfect; gifts don’t have to be expensive, and those who love us don’t want traditions to become a chore. Peace is a gift we must work at, practice, and model.
The holiday season is one of anticipation, not obligation. It’s a mix of joy and togetherness. It’s a time when we have a unique opportunity to show and share love and goodwill amidst chaos and despite circumstances. Love is the greatest gift we can give and receive during the holidays; when we realize this, we find true peace in the season.
Wishing you and yours a happy, healthy, and joyous holiday season.
May peace be with you.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Shane Svorec is a Sales and Marketing Professional who, during Covid, pursued her long-time passion for writing, published her first book, and became an award-winning author. Her work includes Broken Little Believer: Finding Purpose in All the Pretty Painful Pieces, The Busy Bridge That Got Its Break, and Acorn Adventures. An inspirational writer who connects with readers through her colorful storytelling abilities, encouraging messages, and positive perspective, she lives in NJ with her husband, three children, and rescue pets.
